In today’s fast-paced and materialistic world, it’s easy to get caught up in the pursuit of material possessions, social media popularity, and societal norms. This can be due to the fact that sometimes we’re trying too hard to find, buy and have a validation for our happiness. However it seems that the harder we try, the more we’re looking and investing our energy in the wrong places to find happiness.

Living in a materialistic world can be exhausting and unfulfilling, leaving us disconnected from our true desires. Constantly striving to keep up with the latest trends and gadgets can lead to a never-ending cycle of consumerism. Additionally, the pressure to have the “perfect” body or to be constantly busy can leave us feeling overwhelmed, burnt out and sometimes even feeling numb to the actual good things around us.

Life taught me many lessons, however lately I consider myself to be at another learning curve. That of finding true happiness. I’m learning that at times, it’s important to take a step back and reflect on what brings us joy and fulfillment. Is it the latest smartphone or designer clothing? Or is it spending quality time with loved ones, pursuing our passions, and living a simpler, more meaningful life?  Even though no one will answer for the former, it seems that many of us have invested a lot of money and effort to acquire the best gadgets and the best clothes because they believe that it will give them the happiness they seek, however the more time passes, the more I’m realizing that true happiness can be found in a lot simpler things in life.

Take for example relationships. I learned that it’s essential to remember that everyone’s needs and desires are unique, and there is no one-size-fits-all approach to relationships. The societal norms and expectations around dating, marriage, and having children do not necessarily apply to everyone, and it’s up to each individual to determine what makes them happy and fulfilled in a relationship. With that in mind, we need to be open minded and broaden our horizons in the way we think and plan our lives.

I find it very difficult to understand how one person can fulfill all our needs, wants, desires, dreams, goals and why not as well kinks? Expecting a single partner to be everything to us can put undue pressure on the relationship and both individuals involved. In healthy relationships, all partners should support each other’s individual dreams and goals while also sharing common interests and building a life together yet having their own separate identity as well. Open communication, mutual respect, and a willingness to work together are the key to successful relationships. No one is perfect, God knows I’m far from that. We all make mistakes and sometimes end up hurting those that we love dearly. I’m a strong believer that time is the best teacher and healer and only through time we can get better. Defining our own relationship norms and breaking free from societal expectations can create a path to happiness that truly works for us.

That also leads me on to another topic close to my heart. Mental health. Taking care of our mental health is crucial to our overall happiness and wellbeing. It’s easy to get caught up in the daily grind and forget to take care of ourselves. Prioritizing self-care can have a significant impact on our lives.

To focus on our mental health and find what makes our soul happiest, we must take time to engage in activities that bring us joy and fulfillment. This can be anything from practicing a hobby, spending time with loved ones, going for a run or simply taking a walk in nature. As the famous quote by Johann Wolfgang von Goethe says, “Happiness is not a destination, it’s a journey.”

It’s important to appreciate the present moment and focus on the things that bring us joy and fulfillment, rather than solely striving for external goals. By doing more of the things that make our soul happy and focusing on our mental health, we can create a fulfilling and meaningful life for ourselves.

In conclusion, true happiness and fulfillment come from within ourselves and our experiences, not external factors. We must break free from societal norms and expectations, define our own path, and prioritize our mental health and self-care to live a fulfilling and meaningful life. Remember, happiness is not something ready-made; it comes from our own actions and the journey we create for ourselves.